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Sue Mosher's avatar

Thank you for this whiff of The Mystery, Susan. A question surprised me as I sat with this piece, as well as your most recent post and some words spoken into one of my spiritual circles yesterday. Someone in the group said they had carried much grief and loss in the past few years but were only now realizing that they had not grieved the loss of their former accustomed life in another part of the country. What is the relationship between the grief that each of us bears in a lifetime and our own deaths? And how does that relationship scale up (does it?) to the losses felt by and for a culture or a country?

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Susan Kacvinsky's avatar

Phew! That’s such a deep question. I could write a whole post about that. I think what happens. Each of these losses is a death of identity- the person who was married, who lived in this place, this house. That person dies. Even a graduation is a loss of identity. We grieve these losses, consciously or bury it. We pass through the land of: I’m not who I was but not yet who I will be. The final loss of identity is the death of the body. Who am I without it? Will I still exist? But before that, we can ask: who am I really? Strip away every identity. What if I’m not a woman? A person? What if I’m not any of this? Who am I under all of it. If you’re like most people I’ve sat with, the answer will surprise you.

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Julie Neches's avatar

Ready to have the mother crones sing over my bones!

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Susan Kacvinsky's avatar

I’m so glad, Julie. I hope it gives peace.

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Susan Kacvinsky's avatar

It’s such a balm. If you didn’t already, click the link and let them.

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Julie Neches's avatar

I just listened! It is a balm!

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Robin Blackburn McBride's avatar

I look forward to reading this, Susan. Saving.

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Susan Kacvinsky's avatar

Thank you Robin. I look forward to you impressions.

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Prajna O'Hara's avatar

Dear Susan,

This is such a beautiful piece. I didn’t know you were a former school teacher for the disenfranchise, the ones who need and meet you because you open doors. A lucky reciprocity. I love how you show the soup of your heart and bones.

I resonate with so much of this, Rich, wonderful and satisfying.

To come to that place of acceptance.

Deep reverence for your path.

I can hear your student saying, “come along to College with me.”

I treasure your work.

I’ve been stewing in bone soup for a while.

Now for the choir.

Thank you do

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Nica Waters's avatar

"The world does not end. It dies and is reborn, just as we do."

There is so much in here it hardly is worth picking out specific bits that sing to me (pun fully intended)

Thank you also for the link to the youtube . . .

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Susan Kacvinsky's avatar

Thank you for the lovely comment. I’m so glad you went to hear the song. These women are amazing.

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Julie Schmidt's avatar

Susan this is so beautifully written, I'm touched in so many ways. Teaching is incredibly important work. Thank you!

Dear one, thank your for all you have done and given!

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Susan Kacvinsky's avatar

Thanks so much Julie. Letting go of being a teacher was harder than I expected. So much loss in the culture, too.

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Julie Schmidt's avatar

Yes I agree - so much loss in the culture too.

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Gillian Wray's avatar

This is wonderful

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Susan Kacvinsky's avatar

Oh, thank you, Gillian. Thank you for saying so. I'm delighted you took the time to leave a comment. Otherwise I'm just whistling in the dark.

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Maria Luz O'Rourke's avatar

Wonderful imagery, Susan! Perhaps there is solidarity to be found in continuous learning from our collective creation as the teacher, and as you experienced, we never graduate. 🤨

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Susan Kacvinsky's avatar

Thanks, Maria! There isn't a finish line. What I know today is alive and constantly changing. What's under that is the changeless mystery. I can surrender being the answer woman.

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Amy Brown's avatar

Dear Susan, I am leaving my heart here. What a beautiful witchy wonderful piece of writing that stirred something deep inside me. Our entire gorgeous hurting world is contained here. Thank you dear one 💗

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Susan Kacvinsky's avatar

Oh, thank you, Amy. You brought a tingle to my eye with this. I think all of us wise crones have begun singing together, weaving the world, repairing the damage, insisting we be reborn in kinder forms. We are the ones to do it.

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Kelly Thompson TNWWY's avatar

So exquisitely wise and profound. I needed these words today, Susan. Just stunning work.

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Susan Kacvinsky's avatar

Thanks. I feel that we are coming to a similar realization from different ways of describing it. That’s very valuable.

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Susan Kacvinsky's avatar

Oh thank you Kelly. I really appreciate you. I’m grateful when you read and comment.

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Kelly Thompson TNWWY's avatar

I truly appreciate your voice and work, Susan!

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Susan Kacvinsky's avatar

Thank you, Louise. It means so much to me.

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Moorea Maguire's avatar

Awww, I used to teach high school too. I remember before I started, I thought the worst part would be that my legs would ache after being on my feet for 6-7 hours per day. 😆🤣😂

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Susan Kacvinsky's avatar

Then you found out, I assume. Lovely to meet a fellow teacher. Thanks for being here, for reading and commenting.

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Louise Rosager's avatar

Beautiful. Just beautiful.

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Nan Tepper's avatar

Dear One, this is gorgeous. There are so many blessing in this essay, and it left me feeling calmer because it reminded me of the love and peace that are possible in any situation, if we access that deeper part of ourselves. We have a choice. I'm going to make some bone soup and sit down to eat it with the Weird Sisters. And this, made me laugh out loud, "the Paul Blart Gestapo." What a gift, to have you as a teacher, in any setting. xo

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Nan Tepper's avatar

I concur. xo

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Susan Kacvinsky's avatar

Could be disappointing. No sense in pushing the river.

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Susan Kacvinsky's avatar

Dear Nan, my dear one. Thank you for your immense love, which is so unbounded and welcoming. Dive deep under the waves, that's where the peace is, and also the strength to set things right. You know, if anyone can, it will be the older women who step from the invisiblity shadows where we are sent once we have finally gained some necessary wisdom. It's the crones who set the world back in balance - as is our wont. I love your openness, honesty, and willingness, my friend.

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Nan Tepper's avatar

Thanks, Susan. I agree about us being the ones who'll fix it. it's time for some women's wisdom to fill the gaps. Those holes have become so much larger, and the image that just came forth is the holes getting so immense that they swallow up what's not working. And then the earth will get twisted inside out and we'll start anew. Mushrooms? What mushrooms? xo

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Susan Kacvinsky's avatar

The long, tall Sally type. Magical.

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Nan Tepper's avatar

Thanks for the recommendations. Who knew? Now I just have to get off the SSNI so I can see what it's like. xo

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